Raising Kids to Compete and Win
Think about what you just asked. Would you let another adult hit your child and just shrug your shoulders? What is the difference between physical and emotional abuse? All this is teaching him is to take a coach’s (or person in power) destructive behavior and not stand up and defend himself; let’s call a spade a spade. How will he have the skills to handle this himself and not allow offensive treatment when he is older? As a parent you have the responsibility to protect your child from these kinds of situations. No coach or team is worth the lifelong damage this situation can create. Even if it appears not to be affecting your son; believe me it is. But don’t rely on just the other parent’s claims; you have to hear the coach say these things yourself. You and only you must decide if the behavior is destructive or it’s just the way the coach is trying to get all he can from the boys. Nobody has the best interest of your child over their own child and some parents will do and say anything to improve their child’s position.
My advice is first talk to the coach; let him know how you feel and what everyone else is saying. Start going to practices and be at all the games. Stand within hearing distance of the coach and let him know you’re there. Counteract the negative behavior with the positive, make sure you are cheering for your son just as loud as the coach is yelling negative comments. If the behavior continues, you have to realize that you can’t and won’t change it. It’s better to find a different coach who will encourage and develop your child than being on a winning team.
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