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How To Be A Better Parent, Coach, & Leader
Instead of winning, dominating and controlling, try respecting empowering and loving.
Author, consultant, and coach, J.P. Nerbun offers parents and coaches the tools to become a transformational, not transactional leader. In his new book, Calling UP, J.P. gives step by step instructions on how to create a culture on your team or in your family or classroom that will change lives. And recently, he was a guest on our Tuesday Topics and explained the shift needed to start your transformation.
0:59:55 What made JP want to quit coaching
2:06 The difference between transformational and transactional coaching
3:00 What should coaches core purpose be
3:30 How to build a transformational culture
4:03 Winning is the objective, but it’s not WHY we show up
4:20 The more you focus on transformational leading, the more wins you will get
4:55 What is Calling UP vs. Calling OUT for parenting
6:40 Coaches need to be vulnerable and it’s OK for coaches to NOT have all the answers.
8:10 The blueprint for transformational coaching and the steps involved
9:16 How to discipline to get long term results and change
10:23 How to handle a player who doesn’t work hard in practice
13:46 Parents are a coaches biggest asset, communication and transparency is key
16:31 The importance of vulnerability. Making it ok that we aren’t perfect.
17:33 The vision of the leader.
18:27 Growing as a leader.
20:30 The very big difference between punishment and consequences. When to let a player go.
22:20 It always comes down to a choice the player is making and the consequence, not a coaches order.
23:46 Growth mindset research.
24:45 Building a culture that changes lives.
26:00 Instead of winning, dominating and controlling. Try respecting empowering and loving
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