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Does Your Child’s Self Worth Hinge On Their Athletic Performance?

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Does Your Child’s Self Worth Hinge On Their Athletic Performance?

Spopularity is a phenomenon that has been around since team sports began. But with the recent intensity surrounding youth sports, SPOPULARITY is at an all time high!

The UN-official definition of SPOPULAR (sports + popular): The natural effect that occurs when your child is good at sports and she/he and the entire family gains stature on and off the field because of it.

The effect sports have on self-esteemThis concept was brought to my attention by a friend’s daughter, an old soul with a very matter of fact approach to life. She brought it up to her mom after having a stretch of playing poorly for her travel softball team. She was feeling the effects of being UN-spopular:   “Mom, it’s funny, I’ve noticed that I don’t get asked to hang out after the games much anymore and my old throwing partners have ditched me for some of the better kids on the team.”

This athlete was able to see it for what it was and it didn’t bother her that much. But for many others, being UNspopular can be devastating. It’s particularly troubling if your child’s identity is too heavily based on their athletics.

The effects of being unspopularKids become spopular only one way, by being really good on the field, court or stage. But unlike being popular, spopularity is constantly in fluctuation. It can change from game to game, week to week. My friend’s kid is confident and can handle this abrupt change in her status. But for other unspopular kids with low self esteem or those who are more sensitive, parents need to keep a keen eye out for this. The trickle down effect of playing poorly means a lot more when it hits kids socially too. And this could be one reason why so many kids drop out of sports earlier these days. If your kid is going through an unspopular phase, they might need some reaffirming that their worth as a person is a lot more than their performance in a game. And that many unspopular kids will go on to do much bigger and better things in life than hit a home run or make the winning basket.



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