Why It’s Okay To Believe Your Child Will Play Sports in College
It’s the secret code between parents of sporty kids. We all know it. We all follow the rule – it’s absolute. Never. Ever. Under any circumstances, mention to your young child and definitely not to another parent, that they could potentially play their sport in college. Any thoughts remotely resembling them earning an athletic scholarship or a hint of a belief that your child will play in college must be locked up and hidden away from all like a deep dark family secret! Otherwise, you might:
A: Set your kid up for a HUGE disappointment later in life, because we have all heard the statistics about how many kids actually make it to the collegiate level (and we certainly don’t want our kids to ever feel disappointment *see post on too many trophies*Read Here)
B: You will definitely be labeled a crazy sports parent by your peers. Even though secretly many parents and kids probably share the same dream.
Well maybe it’s time to rethink this and come out to your kid and to the world.
As assumed, some went on to become very talented musicians and some did not. McPherson could never have predicted what came next. Turns out the key to success wasn’t practice time, math skills, or music aptitude as most would assume. Nope. It was the answer to one simple question he had asked before they started their first lesson at 7 years old: How long do you plan to play your instrument? The answers were separated into short term, medium term and long term. They were then graphed and charted along with skill level and practice time. The results were astonishing.
The students who at age seven felt they would be playing their instruments for the long term, by age 17/18 had outperformed the short term group by 400% when the practice time was even. And for the group who only practiced twenty minutes per week (the least amount), but chose long term on the question, STILL way outperformed the group who practiced an average of 120 minutes weekly, but who chose short term goals when they first started playing.
The Science Behind How To Practice Better
Taken at it’s most basic meaning. If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you probably won’t. “These kids weren’t born musicians..their wanting came from a distinct signal, from something in their family, their homes, their teachers, that they had encountered in their short lives”. Those kids who had received this positive message had a tremendous advantage. It was the single most determining factor of success.
Doing This One Thing Can Greatly Improve Your Child’s Performance
Even if there is only a 9.1% chance my daughter will play water polo in college, it’s better than the odds of becoming President at 1 in 10,000,000 and you certainly wouldn’t tell a kid not to dream of becoming President. Besides, what is the point of telling your kids they probably won’t make it to the college level? If they truly aren’t destined for college sports, that will become apparent to them soon enough when they are cut from club or travel team or their high school team or see their playing time and skills falling behind others. And for those that have a shot – even a long shot, let them believe in themselves and see what they can do. If it doesn’t happen, I’m guessing they will have learned a lot of life lessons along the way, including, that not everyone gets a trophy (or scholarship) when it’s all said and done.
