How to Parent Through Youth Sports with One Powerful Phrase: “I Love to Watch You Play”
Youth sports can feel like a high stakes balancing act.
You want to support them—but not push too hard.
You want them to grow—but not burn out.
You want to do what’s best—but you’re not always sure what that is.
Behind the packed bags by the door, the quiet pep talks after losses, and the early morning drives fueled by coffee and hope—is something harder to talk about-
The fear of falling behind.
The pressure to keep up.
The quiet worry that everyone else knows something you don’t.
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At Ilovetowatchyouplay.com, we believe youth sports should be about something deeper.
Not just about raising athletes, but raising people—resilient, joyful, self-aware humans who just happen to play sports.
Whether a child is playing recreationally or chasing D1 dreams, what they need at the core is the same—support, perspective, and a relationship that isn’t tied to performance.
It starts with one sentence:
“I love to watch you play.”
Simple words. But they carry a message so many kids are desperate to hear:
You are more than your performance.
You are valued beyond the scoreboard.
You are loved—for who you are and not what you do.
That message – originated by Bruce Brown at Proactivecoaching.info has grown into our platform and a movement. But the purpose remains the same: to support parents as they navigate the beautiful, messy, emotional world of raising young athletes.
So what does “I love to watch you play” really mean—in practice?
Here are 10 reminders I keep coming back to:
1. Lead with connection, not correction.
Your presence means more than your pointers. They don’t need your analysis—they need your love.
2. Cheer for the effort, not the outcome.
Notice the hustle, the heart, the little moments they think no one sees.
3. Let silence be safe.
You don’t have to say something after every game. Sometimes the most powerful thing is simply being there.
4. Let them own their experience.
You can guide and support—but don’t script it. Their wins, losses, and choices need to belong to them.
5. Step back so they can step into themselves.
You don’t have to be in the middle of everything. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is let go—just enough.
6. Don’t confuse potential with purpose.
Just because they’re good at something doesn’t mean it’s meant to be their everything.
7. Remember: joy is fuel.
Burnout doesn’t just come from overtraining—it comes from feeling unseen, unheard, or over-pressured.
8. Your pride should never feel heavy.
They should feel lifted by it, not burdened. Don’t let your hopes feel like expectations they have to carry.
9. Model what matters.
How you show up—calm, kind, curious—teaches them more than any post-game speech ever could.
10. Say it. Out loud. Often.
Before the game. After a loss. On the ride home. In a text.
“I love to watch you play.”
You’re not alone in this.
Not in the overthinking.
Not in the second-guessing.
Not in the deep desire to get it right.
And it’s never too late to shift—to lead with love, to choose presence over pressure, and to rewrite what this journey looks like for both of you.
Because youth sports isn’t just shaping them.
It’s shaping something bigger than wins and losses—it’s shaping a relationship that lasts long after the final whistle.